Congratulations on making the decision to investigate therapy.

You probably found your way here because there is something in your life that isn’t working for you. Maybe its just a stressful time, or something about life is unfulfilling. I don’t believe that people come to therapy because they are ‘Sick’ or ‘Broken’ inside. We all have challenges and obstacles to face, lessons that our elders were not there, or simply failed to teach us. Usually the most authentic and satisfying parts of our self are lost in the shadow of what is most painful for us. That is not illness; that is life.

  • Men’s Issues

    We live in a world where the variety of messages about what it means to be a man are dizzying. We can not help but be bombarded with...
    • Cultural Expectations of Masculinity
    • A presumption that men don't show their feelings, and demands that men be emotionally available
    • Socially prescribed behavioral patterns
    As a man who has struggled with questions of my 'place' and what behaviors were 'appropriate' I am intimately familiar with struggle to reconcile the varied projections of manhood that have created a generation mired in fear, shame, avoidance, anger, and self sabotage. I can help you find your core values and authentic self.
  • Helping Every Relationship.

    • Getting serious, just popped the question, or are you in an established relationship that isn't satisfying your needs?
    • Are you Polyamorous, Ethically Non-Monogamous, Sex positive or Kinky and you want a counselor who understands you?
    As a married gay man in a 14 year stable relationship, and as a professional having direct experience educating and supporting the sex-positive and kink communities I combine the most successful therapeutic approaches to couples and relationship counseling with a panorama of insights into the complexity of all relationship systems.
  • LGBTQ, Allies and Families.

    • Do you want a counselor who is familiar with gender and sexual minorities?
    • Are you facing 'coming out', or having problems with self acceptance?
    • Did a friend, family member or your child just come out, or did you discover the secret you haven't been told?
    As a member of the Gay community I have experienced the pain and the pride of living my authentic self. As a community organizer I have worked with sexual minority youth, parents and families coming to grips with their concerns, and serving as a bridge of understanding.

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